When Ben started driving, I was a bit fearful of his independence (alright, I still struggle everyday!!) One of the best apps we have found is Life 360 and it is so precise that I can tell which ride he is on at Six Flags Great Adventure by looking at the map.
It provides me with peace of mind knowing where he is and when to expect him home.
One night, he was working an evening Eagles game. The traffic is usually an issue around any professional sporting event but he has to arrive many hours early and they park in a lot that with 2 turns can put him right back on I95 and his trip home. He called me at the end of his shift and said:
"I am going to buy a cookie"
To me this meant that he was using his work food voucher to get a snack and even though it was late, and he really didn't need food, I told him I understood.
But I really didn't!!! As I watch him on the Life 360 app I noticed that he was going the wrong way and now appeared to be lost in the maze of South Philly streets! I turned to Glenn and said:
"Ben is lost in South Philly!" and he lovingly responded
"What do you want me to do about it?"
Which was a fair question but still not helping with my growing alarm.
After tensely watch the app for 30 minutes Ben finally was on roads that I recognized that would bring him back to home safely.
As he checked in with us to let us know he was home, he did not say one word about "getting lost". It wasn't until the next morning that he told me:
"I was trying to find "Insomnia Cookies" last night but I couldn't find them so I came home."
We had a long (and not so calm) discussion about the expectation of him coming right home after a game, especially the late night events.
So grateful for technology that allows him to have independence but me to have peace of mind and I also appreciate that Ben learns from each experience that he encounters.
Love you more...
Mom
Hi Sandy,
My son just turned 22 in August. He was diagnosed with Asperger's at age 8. He has had no interest in driving. But when does realize the benefit of driving, I'm going to need insomnia cookies. I just started reading your blog as we met Ben on the mardi gras in August. Blessings to you and your family.
Leslie Brinson